Wednesday 20 August 2008

Gender Discrimination ?

A male forum writer (ST August 20) had responded to Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong's National Day Rally speech on the baby shortage issue:


"In suggesting that men should assist their wives with child-rearing duties and household chores, PM Lee said: 'In the old days, the man was the master of the household. That era has gone.

The modern woman expects equality.' I agree totally. This also means that the laws regarding marriage and family should keep in step with the changing trend. These laws were written in a different era and assumed that men were the providers and protectors, and women, the powerless party.

The present laws discriminate against men, in matters relating to divorce, assets, inheritance and who gets to care for the children when a marriage fails.

I doubt rational thinking men would be keen to get into such an arrangement where the odds are stacked against them. Update the marriage and family laws and make it as fair for the men and children if we wish to increase marriages and birth rates."


Sounds all too familiar ? It certainly does for me. Let us look out for more views from others.


Tuesday 12 August 2008

Does 08/08/08 Augur Well For Everyone ?

Someone commented that in Chinese tradition, eight (8) is a lucky number. I wonder!

I remember Taoists have high regard for the basic digits, 3 and 9. Besides, what is good is relative to one's divine make-up such as date of birth, time of birth and year of birth.



He added that in Mandarin, the number sounds like "prosper". Yes, I am aware of it. But, I remember hearing from a friend of mine that many premium cars bearing number plates with the digit 8, in whatever permutation, were towed away on bank loan default during bad times!

Mine had the nice sounding permutation, 3883; but I did not proper just as great. I tendered a high rental for my shop space at Plaza 888 along with several others who probably believed in it, but where are most of us now ?



According to a spokesman from the Registry of Marriages, 308 ceremonies were performed yesterday, 08/08/08; a significant dip from the 772 ceremonies held last July 7 - 07/07/07.

Many believe fewer couples are tying the knot this year as it is currently the Hungry Ghosts month, a time thought to be inauspicious for everything from marriage to buying a house.




Nice to behold, But once bitten Twice shy!

Monday 11 August 2008

Men Must Get It ?

Thesundaytimes ran an editorial on its "Think" section of August 10, 2008; titled "Men must get it":
Working mothers want more help from their husbands in parenting. This is on the top of their wish list, in a survey conducted by a women's support group. The call is not new. It is an issue raised regularly at forums and in surveys, including one carried out by the Government last year.
A mindset change among the men is called for, but it is not going to be easy. In traditional societies, men went out to work and women stayed home to raise children and do the housework. In Singapore, women entered the workforce in large numbers only in the past four decades. The traditional way of life has been ingrained, and up till today, many working women are still expected to tend to the children and do household chores on top of their day's work.
Having a maid helps ease the load, but not all couples can afford to hire one. Getting retired grandparents to help look after the children is another way out, but again, not all couples have this luxury. In instances where a woman lives with her elderly in-laws, she often ends up looking after them as well. Her husband expects her to take time off from work to take them to the clinic or hospital when they fall ill. It is not that the husband's job is more important. Sometimes, it is the wife who earns more. But it does not occur to the man of the house to show he cares.
In getting the husbands to help out in parenting duties, the chairman of the support group pointed out that it was no longer "a question of awareness or mindset, but of immediate behavioural and lifestyle changes". For a start, husbands should do the dishes and iron the clothes, at the least, and help the children with their homework. The children will learn from the adults" example, and they will grow up to see parenting as a joint responsibility.
Seeing RED over this poser ? Perhaps, it is time that men speak out; and be heard LOUD and CLEAR about their side of the situation.

Sunday 10 August 2008

Changing Mindset On Religion

According to a write-up by New York Times, which was published by The Straits Times titled "Buddhism may be dying out in Japan" on 15 July, 2008; the Japanese have long taken an easy-going, buffet-like approach to religion, ringing out the old year at Buddhist temples and welcoming the new year, several hours later, at Shinto shrines.


Weddings hew to Shinto rituals or, just as easily, to Christian ones.


When it comes to funerals, though, the Japanese have traditionally been inflexibly Buddhist - so much so that Buddhism in Japan is often called "funeral Buddhism".

A reference to the religion's former near-monopoly on the elaborate and lucrative ceremonies surrounding deaths and memorial services. The religion appeared to cater more to the needs of the dead than to those of the living.

"That's the image of funeral Buddhism: that it doesn't meet people's spiritual needs," said Mr Ryoko Mori, the chief priest at the 700-year-old Zuikoji Temple in northern Japan. In Japan nowadays, very few Buddhist priests meet the people's spiritual needs.

While interest in Buddhism is declining in urban areas, the religion's rural strongholds are being depopulated, with older adherents dying and birth rates remaining low.

More significantly, Buddhism is losing its grip on the funeral industry, as more and more Japanese are turning to funeral homes or choosing not to hold funerals at all. In 2007, 28 per cent held funerals at home or in temples, and 61 per cent opted for funeral homes.

An increasing number of Japanese are deciding to have their loved ones cremated without any funeral at all, said anthropologist Noriyuki Ueda from the Tokyo Institute of Technology, an expert on Buddhism. "Because of that, Buddhist priests and temples will no longer be involved in funerals."



According to a write-up by Arti Mulchand of The Straits Times on 9 August 2008, Chinese religions in Singapore, specifically Taoism, have been trying to stem the conversion of their believers to Christianity.

Seven in 10 here considered themselves Taoist nearly 90 years ago, but recent census figures have charted their declining "share" - from 30 per cent of the population in 1980 to 22.4 per cent in 1990 and 8.5 per cent in 2000.

Christianity, on the other hand, has grown its flock to 14.6 per cent of the people here in 2000, up from just 5.2 per cent in the 1920s to 10.1 per cent in 1980 and 12.7 per cent in 1990.

With most of the other religions holding steady, this is where the migration seems to have been.

According to a ST survey, which polled 1,000 people aged above 15 and representative of the population, found that 20 per cent of adults here abandon the religion they were born into before age 30.

Back in 1990, these "switchers" made up only 11.5 per cent. The drift is leaving Taoism, for one, with relatively older followers. Six in 10 Taoists, for example, are above 40. One in four who grew up in Taoist homes says he has left the faith. Three-quarters of the transfers were made by those under 24, who said they felt "disconnected" to the religion or perceived a "lack of meaning' in following it.

When the issue of "deserters" from Taoism came to light in 1988, Taoist leaders went into a huddle, and from that came the Taoist Federation in 1990.

In contrast, Buddhism is holding strong. Over 80 per cent who were born Buddhist are staying Buddhist. And it was the fastest growing religion between 1990 and 2000, growing to 43 per cent of the population in that decade.

Buddhists are seeing a revival in their faith - a revival also being played out in South Korea, which is similarly mult-religious and Asian.


There, Buddhism is also mounting a fight for believers amid a dramatic surge in Christianity. Christians form close to 30 per cent of the population there, and Buddhists, 22.8 per cent.


In Singapore, where Christianity is not native, half the faithful are converts, that is not born into the religion. Christianity has grown here amid an evolving social context: The population has become more educated. English has also grown in use, and brought with it a Western world view and culture.

Language appears to be the biggest factor accounting for Christianity's expansion here, said Associate Professor Phyllis Chew, a linguist at the National Institute of Education.

National University of Singapore sociologist Alexius Pereira confirmed it. He added that over the last 40 years, Christianity has drawn the educated, English-speaking Chinese whose parents followed traditional religions.

The charismatic movement, with the attendant rise of the "mega-churches", those with members numbering in the tens of thousands, was a factor in the growth of Christianity.


Conversion to Islam does happen, most often because of mixed marriages, but conversion to Hinduism is "downright impossible", says the Hindu Endowments Board on its website.

It is a faith one is born into, though there are a minority who choose to take on and practise the tenets of Hinduism.

The ST survey found that Islam kept 99 per cent of its followers; among Hindus, just 7 per cent switched faiths.


The survey also found that three in 10 of the free-thinkers, those who see no need to answer to a higher power, used to have a childhood religion; but dropped it, mainly before age 24. The remaining seven have no plans to take on a religion.


"Four in five young people here believe in religion"
This report by Clarissa Oon of The Straits Times appeared on September 3, 2008; but I have decided to insert it here because it was based on a survey done in 2004 by sociolinguist, Dr Phyllis Chew.

Four in five young people believe in some sort of deity, according to the poll of more than 2,700 students by Dr Chew. Her study, believed to be the first of its kind here among youth aged 13 to 18, is published in a new book on religious diversity in Singapore by the Institute of Policy Studies and launched yesterday.

Most of the students - who come from a mix of neighbourhood and government-aided schools - belong to one of the three religions, ie Buddhism, Christianity and Islam.

However, when asked to write all they know of the nine main religions in the country, the students could only give mainly superficial comments.

Examples: "It is associated with monks" for Buddhism, "they go to church and sing hymns" for Christians and "cannot eat pork" for Muslims.

Students who gave specific details on their own faith could make only general remarks or had nothing to say about other religions, showing ignorance or disinterest in religions besides their own.


Dr Chew wrote that the religious views of the young matter because "their behaviour and beliefs affect the political, economic and social future of a nation".

On the whole, Singapore adolescents are remarkably tolerant, she added, even if they interpret "tolerance" as "not talking about religion" with their friends and hence avoiding possible conflicts.

The importance of adopting such an attitude was stressed by about three-quarters of those surveyed.


Just one in three polled considers himself or herself a Buddhist compared to 42.5 per cent in the 2000 census.

Correspondingly, Christians make up one in five of those surveyed, against 14.6 per cent in the census.

The proportion of Muslims, however, has stayed constant, registering 15 per cent in both the survey and the census.


While only a small minority (5.7 per cent) of students had switched to a different religion from their parents, most conversions were from Buddhism or Taoism to Christianity.

Saturday 9 August 2008

Singapore National Day Parade 2008

Friday 8 August 2008

2008 Beijing Olympics Opening/Closing Ceremonies

The 29th Olympic Games were declared open by President Hu Jintao in a dazzling spectacle, showcasing both the richness of Chinese culture, and the elaborate lengths the host has gone through to stage the planet's biggest sporting extravaganza on 08.08.08 at precisely 8.00 pm. Almost S$60 billion - treble the budget of the 2004 Athens Olympics - has been pumped into the Beijing Games.

A record 204 nations and territories, and 10,500 athletes would be competing over the next 16 days. Packed into the new "Bird's Nest" National Stadium were some 91,000 spectators enthralled by the 3-and-a-half hours of multimedia feast choreographed by acclaimed Chinese filmmaker, Zhang Yimou.

China's evolution from the Xia Dynasty to the present day was told in a magical visual show featuring taiji exponents, Chinese opera singers and 56 children representing the 56 Chinese ethnic groups.

It was a spectacular show incorporating everything from acrobats to Chinese calligraphy to terracotta soldiers - and almost every aspect of China's 5,000-year history.

However, the closing ceremony paled in comparison. Let us look forward to 2012 when London hosts the next Olympics.

Thursday 7 August 2008

'Hungry Ghosts' Festival


Around this time of the lunar calendar, some chinese believers would gather together to set up temporary praying altars to welcome the souls of the dead. The gates of Hades are believed to be flung open for the souls to roam freely during the seventh month of the lunar calendar; and, for this year, it falls on 1st August 2008 through 30 August 2008.

The believers offer daily prayers with joss-sticks and candles. Coffee, tea, alcohols, soft-drinks and food are offered daily to appease the 'hungry ghosts'.

Unlike other lunar months, the first, middle (15th) and last day of the 7th lunar month are observed with greater widespread offerings, and burning of incense, joss papers, paper replicas of clothes, shoes, houses, and other materialistic essentials.   As is the usual practice of Taoists and Buddhists, the first and 15th day of lunar month are considered auspicious days for observance and prayers.   The last day of the 7th lunar month is special as it is the day of bidding farewell to the wandering souls, and spirits of ancestors, and/or loved ones who have to make their way back to their respective realms.   It is a month of widespread dining, entertainment, continual prayers and offerings as different communal groups pick (some in consultation with the spirits) their own dates to observe the festival with pomp and grandiose dedication within their own localities.   Some groups engage monks or Taoist priests to perform special rituals for the healing and salvation of the wandering souls.











Electrical appliances, toys, liquors, figurines, elaborately-decorated charcoals, etc are auctioned off for raising funds for the ensuing year's festival celebration, and charitable organisation(s) chosen by the organising committee in consultation with fellow members.

Successful bidders need only to pay up before the following year's celebration. Charcoals are hot items because of the superstitious belief attached to such stuff, and the bidding can go into thousands of dollar(S$).   Members outbid each other to clinch their favourite items with the belief that the items would bring good fortune.


Many temples too organise mass celebrations for their devotees to make offerings to their ancestors and spirits of loved ones in the temples' compound, and for the temples' monks or Taoist priests to conduct prayers for the souls.

Devotees need to contribute a monthly or one-time payment for the occasion.





Getais ( stage-show ), puppet shows, wayangs ( traditional chinese operas ) and 10-course chinese dinners are organised as part of the celebrations when budget allows.

This festival is not unique to Singapore.   Chinese in countries like Taiwan, Hongkong, Indonesia and Malaysia do observe the festival in their own customary practices and beliefs.

Above snapshots show the elaborate celebration in Puli, Taiwan.   More information and pictures are available from Chinese Temples in Singapore.